A adoção e o enfrentamento do desejo de filhos e de ser mãe em casos de infertilidade biológica.

Abstract

Today, in the 21st century, a lot has been said, but nothing is closed yet when it comes to what a woman wants. Faced with this lasting schism, we proposed, making a cut, to work with biologically infertile women, who have the possible answer to deal with the desire to have children and/or to be a mother. The work is therefore conducted on the basis of three questions: Why do women want to have children? Within the choice to have children, what makes them insist on the biological path? What are the effects of adoption and the meanings of insisting on the biological for the infertile woman? Aiming to dialogue with these issues, an investigation is guided by the theoretical-methodological field of Freudian and Lacanian psychoanalysis, as well as by other theoretical constructs belonging to different areas of knowledge and history. The survey of literature on the subject was articulated and discussed along with the findings in narratives with three mothers and women who agreed to tell their stories from the desire for a child to adoption. By analyzing the narratives as the focus and dimension of their productions and also the understanding that the search for answers will happen one by one, with the addition that reducing every woman to the mother would be equivalent to ideal proportions inadequate to modernity. As a result, it is observed that there is a diversity of desires and demands that involve infertility and adoption, and that the delimitation of a single plot becomes unfeasible. In this sense, the theoretical support contributed to thinking that adoption does not always occupy the place of last option, it can be both an entry and an exit for a subject; it could be decision and solution, or something else. Furthermore, it was observed that the exploration of subjectivity and the female body in an attempt to produce a biological affiliation brings psychics that mark the history of women and also their relationships. It is necessary to consider, in this context, that not only does the woman not exist, but also the mothers are multiple, they do not repeat themselves, because they are built from their parenting and the unary trait that structures them. Therefore, neither universal truths nor medicine, neither in psychology nor in psychoanalysis, were chosen when the subject is desire. Thus, what can be said is that, for being a mother, it is necessary to want to be a mother and to have the desire for a child, which allows us to extrapolate the narcissism of humanity that seeks immortality, and makes room for socio-affective affiliation, trying to make oneself mother, in her importance, through the paths of adoption, love and care. It is hoped, with these considerations, that this work can contribute to studies on women, mothers, infertility and adoption, within and outside the psychoanalytic field.